you have an ego problem

Advanced yoga posture photos can be inspiring, intimidating or even infuriating!

QUICK: what are the very first thoughts that enter your head when you see yoga photos like this? Do you think: "wow, I wish I could do that" or maybe, "what a show-off." Perhaps you judge her alignment, her body, her tattoos, or compare yourself to her in some way. Even though you know it shouldn't matter, perhaps you wonder if you could ever squish yourself into that pose...or if you could do it "better" than her. Having something to aspire to is great, but where do you draw the line between inspiration and envy? Or, if you're on the other end of these photos, how do you find balance between inspiring others or just showboating your strength and flexibility?

We all deal with it. Regardless of how you label it or how much you're aware of it, we all have an ego problem lurking in our lives, our relationships and...our yoga practice.

"In our Western culture, the word ‘ego’ refers to certain characteristics that often make someone intolerable in the eyes of others, things like arrogance, selfishness and an inflated sense of self-importance. Based on that view, most people would probably say that they don’t have an ego. But the very fact that they would say “I don’t have an ego”...indicates that they do!" - Yoga Magazine

Sorry, but it's true. Though the contortionist-like show-offs might be the most obvious candidates for an ego-check, students that lack appropriate self-esteem tend to be the ones who are actually fighting the hardest battle with ego because they don't think it's there. (Read that again) Pushing too hard during practice, comparing yourself to others or continuing an internal dialogue of self-loathing are all very damaging ego-related habits that need to be eliminated.


Think of it this way: as with anything, the more we practice something, the better at it we become. Our mind automatically responds to mental stimulus in a certain way and in turn, our bodies and nervous system react. So if during your practice, you are "practicing" a wandering mind, an over-confident attitude, feelings of frustration, trying to make your poses look a certain way or putting yourself down, then your yoga journey is coming along strong...heading in the wrong direction.

So how can we really rid ourselves of ego? Awareness is the first step. Acknowledge this inherent battle. Whether your self-worth is over-active or under-active, you need to practice mindfulness in order to find a balance. 

1.) Ask yourself: Is your yoga practice an obsession or a bragging point? How do you really approach your yoga practice - do you push your way through? Do you flow by allowing your body to be as it is or are you trying to reach a certain goal? Do you feel the need to please the teacher, post photos on Facebook or compete with those around you? Many of these issues might be deeply imbedded in our subconscious mind; once you begin to notice where you're struggling with ego, you can then work to change your thought patterns.

2.) Meditate. I can't stress the benefits of meditation enough (pun totally intended). Besides the obvious necessity for us all to slow down and lower stress levels, mindfulness meditation is hands-down one of the best ways to encounter your true self. Though it may sound cheesy if you've never tried it, you'd be amazed what a regular meditation practice can do for your ego, spirit, contentment and overall mental state. When you become aware of negative habits in your mind, you are then able to analyze them and head it off next time it surfaces.

 3.) Be patient. A two-fold goal, you won't get anywhere on any journey without patience. Know that transcending your own insecurities, preconceptions or frustrations associated with your ego isn't going to happen overnight. Months and years of consistent, focused meditation is a good start.

Even if you don't know where to start, just try to notice your habits of judgement. Don't neglect the importance of this process. Ego will get in the way of everything around you before you even know it, but once controlled, will allow a whole new quality and depth to your life and those around you. Namaste!

"Go beyond your ego and the internal dialogue. Make a decision to relinquish the need to control, the need to be approved and the need to judge. Those are the three things the ego is doing all the time. It's very important to be aware of them every time they come up." - Deepak Chopra